>This is the second time I’ve opted out of my halfway finished “other” post and started a new topic. I doubt I’ll be around until the weekend to respond to comments, but I’ll definitely be interested in those that are posted. This might not come across as well-thought out, but work with me here. I did try to be logical about it. *grin*
Sex, Sex, Sex
As a writer of erotic romance, part of my work revolves around writing sex. So that sort of brings me to my topic for the day. Premartial sex among middle schoolers. Recently in the news, a Portland, Maine school board voted 7 to 2 to allow contraceptives be given to middle schoolers without parental consent. Personally, I’m for handing out contraceptives, although I wish they’d promoted the use of condoms because it’s a way to prevent STDs. While I don’t condone sex in the realm of middle school or high school, I don’t bury my head in the sand to reality. Kids will find a way to have sex, and I personally don’t want my tax dollars going to pay for the health and welfare of kids with unwanted pregnancies or the care of their offspring. Don’t even get me started on parents who can’t teach their kids that sex should only happen when you’re mature enough to know what the responsibilities of the act entails.
Parenting – What a Concept
Now that the mini-left-wing rant is over, I’d like to address it from the point of view of an erotic romance writer with two daughters
- Kids should know what sex entails from the age of nine in simple, plain language
- Kids should know that abstinence is the best policy at least until old enough to understand that with the act comes great responsibility
- Kids should be watched like a hawk. Letting a middle schooler (10-13) roam the mall on a Saturday is sheer stupidity, dangerous and irresponsible on the part of a parent. Letting them go places without knowing where they are or who they’re with is ridiculous.
- Kids don’t need to be dressed up as Britney Spears wannabes or Bratz dolls – kids dressed up like little adults tend to take on the mannerisms of adults. Too many parents treat their kids like dress up dolls. Why not just let kids be kids.
- Kids shouldn’t read erotic romance
Scrrreeeeeechh!! Yep, you read that right. Kids shouldn’t read erotic romance. My books, for all their “lush and romantic” love scenes, aren’t meant for kids under 18. Let’s face it, few kids under the age of 18 are mature enough to figure out that romance books aren’t always the same thing in real life. Then there’s the “stunt performed under controlled conditions” factor. You know what I mean…the stunt (sexual act) comes out of my mind, onto the page and it’s for readers who understand my work is fiction, not for experimentation.
I have a 17-year-old, and I’m glad she doesn’t like to read romance, because it means she won’t touch my books. But then I’ve also told her that she can’t have sex until she’s 35, and if she has sex before then without being married, she’s on her own if she gets pregnant. This has been made QUITE clear to her. The really ironic thing is that this same daughter has never been kissed and she’s mortified by it. She thinks there’s something really wrong with her because no boy has kissed her yet. Makes me worried that she might get herself into a spot of trouble in the future. I can only pray that she’ll meet a nice young man who’ll be good to her.
Personally, I think our society “sets our kids up for failure” when it comes to having sex. They’re predisposed toward it because a large segment of the American population thinks sex should be kept under cover and behind closed doors. It’s not something one is supposed to talk about. I don’t know about anyone else, but the first thing I went for as a kid (and still do as an adult) is the forbidden fruit. My mother had a book called Caravan that I wanted to read. She said no, it was inappropriate for me. So what did I do??? I waited until she was out of the house, and I stood at the damn bookcase to read the book. It had ONE sex scene in it, that by today’s standards bordered on SWEET.
So that’s it for today’s topic…this might be muddled, but then that makes it a good post because everyone will have something to post dissent or approval on. What do you think?
Should middle schoolers be given contraceptives without parent permission? Should kids under 18 be allowed to read erotic romance/erotica?
Until next time.